Welcome to reThink Your Perspective’s blog. Your trusted space for unlocking potential, empowering mindsets, building productive habits, and boosting motivation. This post is the sixth in our series exploring Shirzad Chamine’s Positive Intelligence (PQ) Approach. Today, we are looking at the last three of the accomplice Positive Intelligence saboteur voices; the Avoider, Hyper-Rational and Stickler Saboteur.
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Understanding the Saboteur Voices: Stickler, Hyper-Rational and Avoider
In this sequence, I am exploring the Positive Intelligence (PQ) Approach created by Shirzad Chamine. In the past few blogs, I introduced you to the Master Saboteur and six of its accomplices. And in this post, we complete our deep dive into those accomplices by examining the Stickler, Hyper-Rational, and Avoider Saboteurs.
These saboteurs often operate silently in the background of our lives, influencing our thoughts, behaviours, and emotional responses. Gaining awareness of their presence is the first step towards reducing their control and shifting into Sage-mode. If you haven’t already, I encourage you to take Shirzad’s free Saboteur Assessment. If you’d like to explore your results further or need help calming your inner saboteurs, feel free to reach out.
The Stickler Saboteur
Primary Motivation: The Stickler seeks perfection, order, and control. It aims to avoid criticism or failure by adhering strictly to rules and high standards.
Characteristics:
- Punctual, methodical, detail-focused
- Highly self-critical and critical of others
- Often irritable or tense
- Strong need for self-restraint and control
Core Beliefs and Justifications:
- “If it’s not perfect, it’s not good enough.”
- “I must fix every mess I see.”
- “Others are too sloppy; I have to compensate.”
- Believes perfection equals safety and approval
Emotional Impact:
- Constant frustration and anxiety
- Suppressed anger
- Disappointment in self and others
- Feeling overwhelmed by having to uphold high standards
Consequences:
- Reduces flexibility and adaptability
- Causes burnout and strained relationships
- Leaves others feeling criticised and never good enough
- Stifles creativity and spontaneity
Calming the Stickler Saboteur:
- Challenge perfectionism with “good enough” thinking
- Practice self-compassion and celebrate progress
- Allow space for mistakes as growth opportunities
- Develop awareness of when criticism stems from fear rather than necessity
The Hyper-Rational Saboteur
Primary Motivation: The Hyper-Rational Saboteur seeks control and security through knowledge, logic, and analysis, often at the expense of emotional connection.
Characteristics:
- Highly analytical, private, and intellectually intense
- Emotionally distant or aloof
- Prefers ideas and systems to emotional engagement
- Sceptical and focused on efficiency
Core Beliefs and Justifications:
- “Feelings are distractions.”
- “Emotions are irrational and unnecessary.”
- “I must protect my mind and time from others’ needs.”
- Values knowledge and competence above all
Emotional Impact:
- Frustration with others’ emotional responses
- Anxiety about intrusion or loss of control
- Feelings of isolation and being misunderstood
- Cynicism or detachment from others
Consequences:
- Weakens interpersonal relationships
- Limits empathy and emotional intelligence
- Makes decisions that lack human insight
- Can create an intimidating or cold presence
Calming the Hyper-Rational Saboteur:
- Acknowledge the value of emotions in decision-making
- Develop emotional intelligence and empathetic listening
- Allow yourself to feel and express emotions safely
- Blend logic and intuition for balanced choices
The Avoider Saboteur
Primary Motivation: The Avoider seeks to avoid discomfort, conflict, and unpleasant emotions by focusing on the positive and staying in safe, pleasant routines.
Characteristics:
- Conflict-averse and people-pleasing
- Struggles to say no or face difficult tasks
- Downplays real problems or delays action
- May appear calm while internally anxious
Core Beliefs and Justifications:
- “If I avoid it, it might go away.”
- “It’s better to be nice than to rock the boat.”
- “Keeping peace is more important than being honest.”
- Believes harmony equals safety
Emotional Impact:
- Underlying anxiety and suppressed resentment
- Fear of disrupting peace or relationships
- Emotional avoidance leading to inner conflict
- Numbness to challenges rather than resilience
Consequences:
- Problems are left unresolved or worsen
- Relationships remain surface-level due to avoidance
- Others lose trust due to lack of honesty or clarity
- Growth and progress are hindered by procrastination
Calming the Avoider Saboteur:
- Acknowledge fears and uncomfortable emotions
- Reframe conflict as a path to growth and clarity
- Take small, courageous steps to face discomfort
- Embrace a growth mindset and develop resilience
Final Thoughts: Why This Matters
The Stickler, Hyper-Rational, and Avoider Saboteurs can deeply impact how we approach life, work, relationships, and our inner world. Recognising them is the first step to weakening their hold. Each one offers insight into past coping mechanisms, but they no longer serve us as they once did.
By applying the PQ Approach and increasing our self-awareness, we can reduce the influence of these saboteurs and activate our Sage powers. Curiosity, compassion, creativity, and purpose-driven action. Doing so allows us to thrive, not just survive, with greater authenticity, emotional intelligence, and peace of mind.
What Do You Think?
Have any of these voices felt familiar to you? If so, you’re not alone. And you’re not broken. These inner saboteurs are part of being human, but they don’t have to control your story. Let’s talk about how you can start taming them and reclaiming your power. Stay tuned for the next post in this series to start learning about your sage powers and how to give them more control.
If you’re ready to explore your saboteurs more deeply, I’d love to connect and support you on your journey.
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- Or book a free discovery call
To your continued success,
Jaiye
